There will be no more long distance relationships for me. This is how I see my future even though I am a frequent traveller, often covering the globe.
I will not go through the anxiety, heart ache, cold feet and more of only seeing my partner maybe 2-4 times a year.
Long distance relationships are hard
Undoubtedly long distance relationships are hard. Your commitment to one person is challenged; long distance relationships also challenge your telephone bill and financial budgets.
I have been covering the world with many flights since May 2000. Both prior to this and since then I have been involved in a range of long distance relationships, from flings to couplings which range from a few months to a few years.
Whether at home or abroad I have met and become associated with girls from the UK, Ireland, Canada and even the odd Asian girl. My heart has fluttered; I have heard partners talk of love.
The miles apart of a long distance relationship makes my desire for frequent time together painful. I have missed opportunities at home waiting for a girl overseas.
Long distance relationships became a frustration as opposed to a benefit of travel.
Long distance relationships have seen me on both sides of the relationship. I have been the one travelling, met someone abroad and had to say “goodbye” when I set to return home.
I’ve also been the “someone” who was met in the UK.
I’ve been the one who likes the girl. Then the girl gets involved with me only to reveal she already has someone at home. She is already in a long distance relationship.
Then I see our moments together change from “being together” to “just a friend”.
On the reverse I have been the one to find my partner who is based overseas has cheated on me, more than once. The long distance relationship was too hard for them or maybe they were never serious enough about me anyway?
The days of long distance relationships are over
Now my long distance relationship days are over.
Those who read this site will know of me and know why my long distance relationship days are over. I am settled, I am very happy, I am now married with a most beautiful, inspiring and loving wife.
I travel as much as before but this is not a long distance relationship for me. This is a marriage, a partnership, a commitment, a life together.
I may leave the UK but I always come back. We are together for either 1-2 weeks a month or for the full month. This is for every month.
No man is an island
Each time I return home she is there for me. To provide me with the love, emotional assurances, comfort and support which means I am not alone.
I love my travel, I love my wife. The two fit into my life.
My wife finds it hard each time I go away yet we both know I am coming back soon. We talk everyday where possible (sometimes flights, time differences and schedules rule this out).
Thanks to Skype our communications are as long as needed. Thanks to airlines our ability to reunite is easy.
This maybe Valentine’s Day and in truth my travels take me away from my wife today. This can be hard for some relationships and hard for long distance relationships.
For me every day is St Valentine’s Day. I know I will be with my wife again and our loving relationship goes from strength to strength.
I’ve found a loving relationship that works for me and provides the security of marriage.
I wish you all a Happy St Valentine’s Day irrespective of whether you are single, dating, married or in a long distance relationship.